Why You’re Not Broken, Stuck or Blocked

Broken, stuck or Blocked - woman lying on a bed feeling these things

Hello Cosmic Revolutionary,

She slumped on the couch in front of me. You could see that she had been a vibrant woman at some point, but life had hung exhaustion on her face. Deep rings under her eyes, her features pointed and tired, her forehead permanently creased from pain and the effort of trying to figure out what was wrong with her life.

It was obvious from her accessories that she’d probably had money at some point, but we’d haggled over the price of getting a reading from me. I’d said “yes” to less than what I normally charge because I could hear the desperation in her voice.

“I’m burned out,” she stated.

She let that hang in the air as if that statement alone explained everything; the corporate job she hated, scrambling for money, taking care of the children, doing all the emotional labor in her broken marriage, all those times her parents and teachers told her she “couldn’t” or she “shouldn’t”, and the unmet needs of her dreams all crash-landing in a body that had hit a wall.

She looked at the Quantum Human Design chart in her hands before turning her face towards me hoping that something on the chart could help explain what felt so broken, stuck, and blocked in her life.

Like many of my clients, she’s been looking for a solution for years. She’s tried therapy, eating gluten-free, moving, changing jobs, energy medicine, spiritual retreats and, while she had some relief here and there, nothing seemed to stick for more than a few weeks. She didn’t realize it yet, but she was about to finally get the answers she’d been looking for for years.

Maybe you relate to my client’s story?

If you are like most of the people I work with, you know that you’re destined for more. You can feel the stirrings of this “secret” part of yourself whispering with a sense of urgency, telling you that you deserve more, that you’re here for a reason and you’ve got something bigger to do. That “something bigger” isn’t necessarily about DOING something big, as much as it is about having the freedom to do what you want to do when you want to do it, how you want to do it…

Somewhere along the way, early on in your life, you learned to quiet this part of yourself. For many of you, it started when you were young. You learned quickly to sit down and control your physical energy and the messages your body was giving you. You learned to be quiet, do your work, and focus on what others told you is important to focus on. You discovered that there is judgment or even punishment if you don’t learn to regulate this wild and natural part of yourself.

Some of you learned to be good – even very good. You followed all the rules and formulas for success. You were responsible. Took care of everyone around you. You got a “good” job, made “good” money, and did “good” things in the world. You never complained or asked for more.

Until you couldn’t do it anymore.

Some of you learned to be rebellious, defying the “rules”, and taking pride in your non-compliance as a way of defending yourself against assimilation. Your rule-breaking often resulting in patterns of self-sabotage, exhausting yourself by not taking good care of yourself, and spending your energy working hard to prove a point.

Until you couldn’t do it anymore.

Some of you just settled into a life of quiet mediocrity, telling yourself that “it is what it is” as a way of convincing yourself that it was okay to abdicate your dreams. You numbed your discomfort with food, media, and any distraction that helped you ignore the longings you feel in your life.

Until you couldn’t do it anymore.

Eventually, the voice inside of you did something to get your attention. Maybe your body gave out and you struggled with your physical health. Maybe your important relationships imploded. Maybe you lost your job. Something inside of you stopped being quiet and screamed so loudly that you couldn’t put off listening to it anymore.

If you relate to these scenarios and you think somehow you’ve “screwed up”, let me assure you that’s not true. If you’ve been trying to follow the “formulas” for creating a successful life and it’s not working for you, even if it looks “good” on the outside, it’s not your fault.

You’re not broken, stuck, or blocked. You’ve simply been conditioned.

From the moment you got here, the world – often with the best of intentions – has been teaching you a formula for success, but whose definition and formula of “success” have you been trying to follow? We start learning this formula as children when we’re taught to shut down our feelings in order to be presentable and manageable to our parents and to fit into an educational system that has outgrown it’s capacity. We follow the formula in order to be successfully employed, to make the money we think we need to be “free” and to measure up to what society expects of us.

You don’t realize the true cost of settling, hiding your authentic self, and following formulas for success that don’t really fit you. Anytime you say “yes” when you want to say “no”, anytime you stifle your “gut” feelings and the signals of misalignment that your body is giving you, anytime you give up on what you want for the sake of others – or in the name of being “good”, you use your precious energy to hide the truth, putting yourself at risk for burnout and crisis.

Broken, Stuck or Blocked - child hiding behind her hands

Not only that, if you’ve experienced a lifetime of being told that it’s not okay (or successful…or safe…) for you to be WHO you are or HOW you are, you may have internalized this message as micro-trauma, causing your mind, body, and spirit to live in a state of low-grade fight or flight making you anxious and worried all the time, again, putting you at risk for burnout and crisis.

Think of it like this. Imagine that you’ve been invited to an opulent masquerade party. As you arrive, you are handed a beautiful mask on a stick that you’re instructed to hold up over your face. Over the course of the evening, even though the mask is fairly lightweight, your arm gets tired of holding up the mask. You and your fellow revelers, eventually take down your masks because it’s too hard to maintain the illusion as time passes.

The story you’ve been told about who you are, how you are, and what you need to do to be successful is like wearing that mask. Maybe it didn’t feel too hard in the beginning. Perhaps the payoff was nice at the start, but eventually the cost of holding up the facade and trying to be untrue to your wild and natural self forced you to take down the mask and contend with the person staring back at you in the mirror.

Where to Start to see that You’re Not Broken, Stuck, or Blocked?

Why not download your FREE Human Design chart here?

At its core, Human Design is a unique system that offers profound insights into your inner self and how you interact with the world around you. Your Human Design chart is a valuable tool that can help you understand your true nature, discover your strengths and weaknesses, and unlock your full potential.

By downloading and reviewing your unique Human Design Chart you are embarking on a journey of self-discovery that will empower you to make conscious choices in all aspects of your life. Your chart is an Energy Blueprint of your unique energy configuration and contains valuable information about your personality traits, your natural talents, and your life purpose. With this knowledge, you’ll navigate life’s challenges with greater ease and clarity.

Human Design is a deeply empowering system that encourages us to embrace our true selves, rewrite our personal narrative, and live in alignment with our inner wisdom. When we align with our authentic nature, we tap into a wellspring of creativity, joy, and fulfillment that flows effortlessly through us.

There’s More – How To Learn More About Human Design

If you are trying to learn and apply Human Design to your life circumstances, but traditional Human Design rings a little off-key, you don’t quite connect with it, or it feels heavy as you read it. We invite you to explore training options with Quantum Human Design, internationally respected and time-tested training courses.

These courses will empower you to create a life filled with more money, better relationships, health and vitality, a rewarding career, and experience profound personal transformation. 

Explore the life-changing options in our Quantum Human Design School

Curious about the difference between Human Design and Quantum Human Design? Karen Curry Parker explains it in this video:

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Jamila Jamie joined the team in 2020 and is now the Director of the Quantum Alignment System™, which is the advanced integrated Professional Training created by Karen Curry Parker that blends the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), Quantum Human Design™, subtle body therapies (quantum essential oils & quantum flower essences) and traditional coaching. She is the point of contact from the moment you sign up for QAS Professional Training all the way through Certification. Jamila is the creator of the powerful Flower Essences used in this program.

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She is a Quantum Energist, Certified Homeopath, Quantum Alignment System Practitioner & Quantum Human Design Specialist, and certified in numerous other energy healing and psychology techniques.

From as long as she can remember, she was able to see and know things about people by being able to “read” their energy. An avid learner and self-proclaimed geek, she has been delving into Human Design for over ten years and uses this as the guidepost in all her work.

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