The Goal of Good Parenting is Not What You Think

Good Parenting

Hello Cosmic Revolutionary,

What is Good Parenting Anyway?

As the mother of five biological children and three stepdaughters, I have felt the overwhelm, fear, and despair of being a parent.

For most of my parenting career, I was a full-time, single mother trying to, not only raise a family but also get the bills paid and – hopefully – be able to give my children the gift of a college education.

I have had many maternal moments of feeling like an utter failure, wracked with guilt and completely terrified that I was going to screw my children up in every way possible. With one of my children in particular, I was deeply worried that they’d either commit suicide or end up in jail if I didn’t “figure out” how to be the parent they needed.

Fortunately for me (and for my children), I encountered Human Design when my children were still pretty young. While knowing Human Design didn’t excuse me from doing my own inner healing so that I could be more present and emotionally available to my children, it certainly gave me important information that helped me be the parent that each of my children needed. (And in the case of one of my children, I’m pretty sure that without knowing his Human Design, he might not have made it to adulthood.)

Human Design, in essence, is the instruction manual that we long for when our children are born.

When the founder of Human Design, Ra Uru Hu, had his revelatory encounter with “The Voice” he was told that Human Design is for the children, but that the adults had to learn it first in order to better serve the future generations. Understanding your own energy dynamics, in addition to your child’s, will help you understand the way you experience the world and what you need to be a better parent.

I like to think of parenting as being a sacred stewardship.

We are still combatting our collective conditioning that teaches us that children need to somehow be “formed” or trained to become healthy, successful adults. Trying to figure out strategies to reward, bribe, and punish children is exhausting and leaves you, as the parent, responsible for your child’s success or lack of success in life. A “good” child is somehow the result of “good” parenting. If you can just do it “right” everything will be okay…

Yet, in my years of being a parent educator and a Child Development Specialist, I saw a lot of really good parents who had challenging children who defied everything the parenting “experts” told them would work. I also saw a lot of really strong adults who grew up to do amazing things in spite of dysfunctional family patterns.

The goal of good parenting is not to raise a “good” child, one who follows the rules and is blindly obedient.

Good parents are stewards, nurturing their children in becoming who they were born to be, helping their children learn how to bend and flow with the changes and challenges life brings, and guiding their children to cultivate a high sense of self-worth.

Good parents help their children know how to connect to the North Star of their own inner compass so that they know what to do and how to make the right choices in a rapidly changing world.

I wrote the Parenting by Design guide to give you a solid approach to helping families become better stewards for their children or to help you be the parent you long to be.

This free guide will walk you through a synthesized approach to help you create a missional family framework, deal with challenging behaviors, and tap into human design dynamics within the family.

In this free guide, you’ll learn:

  • How to craft a mission-centered parenting plan
  • The 4 approaches to parenting and how they affect family dynamics
  • A simple approach to dealing with tantrums, power struggles, and behavioral outbursts
  • Daily journaling prompts to help guide you (or your clients) through the process of intentional, holistic parenting
  • The sweet spot of the intersection of family coaching, child development, and human design to create harmony at home

Get the free guide HERE.

Being a sacred steward is one of the most important jobs you’ll ever have. Here’s to an abundant and peaceful future for our children and grandchildren.

From my Heart to Yours,


Why not download your FREE Human Design Chart for you and your family to understand each other more?

Watch Karen discuss how to let our feelings flow through while parenting children with special needs.

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Jamila Jamie joined the team in 2020 and is now the Director of the Quantum Alignment System™, which is the advanced integrated Professional Training created by Karen Curry Parker that blends the Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), Quantum Human Design™, subtle body therapies (quantum essential oils & quantum flower essences) and traditional coaching. She is the point of contact from the moment you sign up for QAS Professional Training all the way through Certification. Jamila is the creator of the powerful Flower Essences used in this program.

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