Recently I asked some of my clients what their greatest relationship challenge was. The answer, “hands down”, was communication.
Communication isn’t just about being heard or listening.
Good communication actually moves energy, relieves pressure, creates things and, of course, in our relationships, has the potential to bring us closer.
Good communication is a lot like sex and sleep. We think these things should come naturally, but in fact, knowledge and skills make sex, sleep AND communication better. And, just to make it a little more interesting, we don’t all have sex, sleep or communicate in the same way.
We each have our own relationship “DNA” – a unique energetic hard-wiring that influences how we act, what we need and how we best communicate in our relationships. (And, of course, our relationship “DNA” also influences our sexual needs, too…)
Many of us have consciously tried to improve our relationship skills. Maybe you’ve read a couple of good relationship books or even taken some training about how to really hear your partner and be heard….
There are some well-revered formulas out there than can be somewhat effective.
But, these programs don’t take into consideration that we are all different and there is no one-size-fits-all formula for having a great relationship.
In fact, I don’t believe we should be using a single formula at all because, when you understand that each one of us is uniquely configured and has our own relationship “DNA” (your Human Design), we see that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to communication, relating, intimacy, love or sex.
Today I’m continuing our conversation on how to communicate with each Type by sharing a bit with you about the Generator Types, the Alchemists and Time Benders in Quantum Human Design™.
Sidebar: Quantum Human Design™ is a new and transformed Human Design language deliberately engineered and upgraded by Karen Curry Parker. This new vocabulary is a positive, powerful and empowering, higher vibrational frequency language, making it more expansive, expressive and comes with a more comprehensive understanding to help you fully activate your potential. If you don’t have your Chart with the Quantum language on it, you can get it HERE.
There are two Generator Types, the pure Generator (Alchemist) and the Manifesting Generator (Time Benders). These two Types comprise about 70% of the population so these are the most common kinds of people.
These two Types are here to do the “work” of the world. Their theme in life is mastery and once they find the work that they love it’s hard to stop them. They are designed to practice and practice and practice as part of their path of mastery.
If they do not find what they love to do in life, they can be frustrated, angry, eventually even depressed and resigned. An Alchemist or Time Bender Type needs something to “do” and they can often spin out into a crazy cycle of trying everything and anything just to see if they can make something “go” in their lives.
Alchemists and Time Benders have a very deep and powerful intuitive energy that, when they know how to tune into it, gives them access to what is their authentic inner truth. We sometimes refer to the intuition of these Types as our “gut feelings”.
(BTW, not everyone has “gut feelings”. We are all intuitive, but not everyone experiences intuition in the same visceral way that an Alchemist and Time Bender Type does.)
For Alchemist and Time Bender Types to truly know what to do, where to go, what they need and more, they have to know how to get out of their heads and to drop into that deep intuitive place that is their guiding force.
The best way for these Types to access that intuition is by being asked yes/no questions and by responding to those questions with sounds, not words. The sounds that these Types makes is Uh-huh and Un-uh.
It’s important that they don’t use words to respond to questions because their special intuitive “sounds” them out of their heads…
Like all people, the Alchemists and Time Benders are not designed to be told what to do.
And, like most people, they have a tendency to try to communicate with their head instead of from their wise, intuitive “gut”.
If an Alchemist is given the chance to answer a yes/no question instead of an open-ended question and they’re allowed to answer with sounds instead of words, it feels soooooo good and true! These Types don’t really know what’s true for them if they answer any other type of question.
So, typically, we ask questions like, “How are you today?” or “What do you think you should do?” or “How do you feel about this?”
These are terrible questions for all Types but especially terrible questions for an Alchemist or Time Bender and they may find that they don’t feel good after answering them because these open-ended kinds of questions really don’t allow them to access their truth and release any energy that they may have pent up inside of them.
Alchemists and Time Benders LOVE yes/no questions.
It takes a little retraining to learn to ask your Alchemist and Time Bender loved ones yes/no questions instead of the open-ended questions we’re used to using.
Here’s some sample questions that you can use to communicate clearly with the Alchemists and/or Time Benders in your life:
- “Are you feeling happy tonight?”
- “Are you feeling angry?”
- “Do you know what you’re feeling angry about?”
- “Do you want to talk about it?”
- “Would it help if I asked you some questions?”
- “Do you want to spend some time with me this evening?”
- “Do you need some alone time?”
- “Do you love your work?”
- “Is it time to look for a new job?”
Sometimes, when you first start asking an Alchemist or Time Bender these kinds of questions, they are inclined to answer with a lot of words. If they do, then they’ve jumped back into giving you answers from their minds. Remind them to just answer with their intuitive sounds.
The better you get at asking questions and the more they practice answering with sounds, the easier this process becomes.
Do this for your Alchemist and Time Bender loved ones and they will experience a deep sense of clarity and relief.
Sidebar: A 34/20 Time Bender (may not make these sounds and instead answer with yes/no, yup/nope, yeah/nah and that would be correct for them. Experiment with it.
During program you will learn to use the Quantum Human Design™ system as a powerful tool to help you:
- Understand and know yourself, your gifts, your strengths, your power, your “soft spots”…
- Understand and know others
- Relate to others in a way that is honoring, loving and respectful…even if they drive you crazy!
- Learn what you need to feel loved
- Master heart-to-heart communication strategies that allow you to get what you want in your relationships
- Understand your intimacy and relationship needs and avoid feeling abandoned or smothered
- Learn the mechanics of passion, friendship, loneliness, intimacy, commitment and even divorce
- Discover your unique “bonding strategy” and how it may have affected your previous relationships
- Understand how your Family of Origin may have imprinted your energy blueprint and how to break old energy patterns
- Master the dynamics of groups and how your energy may change depending on who you are with
- Be a better parent, partner, spouse, friend, sister, brother, daughter, son or employee or boss…
While we will discuss some deeper aspects of Human Design in this program, this course is open for anyone who loves Human Design and wants to discover practical ways to apply Human Design in their life.
If you are new to Human Design, you will learn the basics as we go to help you understand the deeper mechanics of relationships.
If you are a Human Design expert, you will gain a much deeper and thorough understanding of how people come together and create relationships, families, businesses and friendships.
You can learn more and enrol HERE.
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To learn more about the Initiators (Manifestors) Types in your life, read Love by Type – Initiator (Manifestor) HERE.