Kalyani Pardeshi

Kalyani - my name means blessing in Sanskrit and my life's purpose is to lovingly guide young minds through challenging situations.

I felt like an alien roaming planet earth or perhaps a snowflake - not like the others around me. No matter how hard I tried, I just didn’t fit it. Fitting in felt forceful, like trying to force a marshmallow into a piggy bank’s coin slot. Yet others weren’t accepting of me either. I was different and I refused to change, I was the butterfly who refused to become a caterpillar again.

I became the target of bullies at a very young age. Some of the worst bullying I faced was in boarding school, thousands of miles away from my safe haven called home. I lived with my bullies 24/7. From name calling to being beaten up, my bullies were relentless and brutal in their attack on me. Not a day went by without feeling anxious and battling panic attacks in sheer fear of what I would have to face that day. To add insult to injury, a family member who was attending the same boarding school would tell me to “go die” every time I reached out for help. To this day, I shudder to think of what could have happened if I took those words seriously.

After leaving that particular school, I moved from one school to the next, not recognizing the emotional scars the bullying left on me leading to becoming a bully of sorts myself. Not having any resources to help me overcome the anguish I felt within myself, I had no other option but to develop my own tools to help me heal. It was trial and error at first but once I found what worked for me, I was able to apply it in every situation of bullying I faced in the future.

The bullying extended to the workplace and within family too, however, I successfully applied the tools I had developed to combat this and walk away with my head held high sans wobbly knees. But I yet had to face and conquer the worst bully.

​Despite having a successful career in finance and holding two professional designations, I felt something was amiss. I tried my hand at entrepreneurship and ran a successful online fitness business for two years, yet that void I felt couldn’t be filled. I couldn’t quite figure out why I felt so unfulfilled and even frustrated. Through Human Design, I now know that I was totally out of alignment. I clearly remember when I embarked on this journey of building my fitness business, something within me kept saying no, but I chose to ignore it.

The answer to my life’s purpose came when I attended an anti-bullying workshop at my daughter’s school. I had had an entire lifetime of experiences, learning and tools I had developed so why not share it with those who are struggling with bullying? It would be a disservice not to do so.

Armed with this new revelation, I shut my fitness business down and started from scratch. It was scary but the sheer excitement I had at the thought of being able to help others with my experience kept me going.

Despite a lot of ups and downs in the process, I was consistent and determined to share my story and experience because I had one goal in mind: providing solutions to those struggling, to show them “how” to combat bullying rather than to tell them what to do. And so birthed “Unbullied - 14 Techniques to Silence the Critics, Externally and Internally”.

Through the process of writing my book, I came face to face with my worst bully - me. I had been bullying myself with thoughts of not being “good enough”. Once again, through Human Design, I now know these aren’t my feelings, my open Emotional Solar Plexus (ESP) picks up what others feel and amplifies it. While combating this bully, “Life’s Lessons”, my blog, came into being.

The Soul’s sole focus of my blog? Inner healing, overcoming feelings of inadequacy and annihilating the internal bully peppered with soul searching. and perhaps some humour. I firmly believe that if my work helps even just one person, I have fulfilled my calling.

My goal as your Specialist is to shine a light in the darkness for you, to facilitate your own healing from bullying especially if you are your own worst bully, to redirect your thoughts so you see challenges are learning opportunities enabling you to embrace these challenges with strength and courage! I use a two tier approach where we treat your wounds from bullying first and then fast track your healing process with tools from Quantum Human Design.

Please contact me on social media or via the contact form on my website. I look forward to connecting with you and enlightening your path for you!