How To Take Back The Story You Tell About Yourself

How To Take Back The Story You Tell About Yourself

What is the Story You Tell About Yourself?

Hello Cosmic Revolutionary,

Does this sound familiar?

You get up early, spend some quiet time in meditation and contemplation. In your meditation, you connect with a deep and satisfying experience of love. Of oneness. You feel so good.

And then your family wakes up. You go into the kitchen. Your husband/kids/dogs/ make a big mess of some sort and you totally snap.

All that cosmic love experience? Gone.

All that sense of oneness? Poof.

All that feeling so good? Replaced with feelings of irritation and frustration and, eventually, feelings of self-loathing and guilt…

Have you ever noticed that most spiritual leaders don’t have families?

The truth is, spiritual enlightenment and all the apparent goals of having a rich spiritual life in general, can be challenging to maintain in our relationships – or when we’re confronted with the harsh reality of our 3-D life.

It’s easy to be “spiritual” when you’re sitting in a loin cloth meditating and chanting in a cave – or in a spa robe at a yoga retreat.

Part of why it’s so challenging to maintain this connection to your own inner peace is because of your experience of yourself and your connection to your energy changes when you’re in relationship with others.

Several things happen when you walk into a room with other people:

1. You take in and experience their energy in your Open Centers.

2. As soon as you do that, it triggers old patterns and themes, and, if you haven’t strengthened your awareness of how your energy works, it’s easy to allow your energy to get “hijacked” by the energy of others.

3. You bring into your relationships your own lived experiences, expectations, and beliefs causing you to potentially “react” in your relationships because of your personal narrative rather than be fully present with curiosity and presence.

You have a field of information surrounding you that contains the entire history of who you are and all the things that have ever happened to you. This field of information includes all of your past experiences, emotions, and beliefs related to these experiences. It also includes memories stored in your body including memories from your ancestral lineage.

Your Quantum Human Design – your unique energy blueprint – is also part of your conditioning field.

Your conditioning field essentially acts like a filter. It helps you “choose” which possibilities you’re going to pluck out of the Quantum Field and manifest in your life.

Your conditioning field is programming what you create and experience in your life.

Your personal narrative, the story you tell yourself and the world about who you are, is crafted from your conditioning field. This story is setting the tone and direction for your life and has tremendous influence over what and how you manifest. It also often determines how you relate to others.

De-conditioning is the Human Design term for learning how to interpret your experience of the world so that you will no longer be vulnerable to limiting beliefs, cultural expectations, and the norms that we subconsciously live by.

To create change, you have to start first by changing the stories you hold in your conditioning field.

You have to rethink and rewrite your old narrative, the events of the past and reclaim sovereignty over the events that have led to your current story.

This means you have to change your mind, your thinking, and the patterns in your body. You also have to shift the habits you’ve formed in response to your old story.

Even though inner change can be instant, it can sometimes take time for your body to catch up with the changes, especially if parts of your old story have elements that you cultivated to protect you and help you feel safe. (That’s why we use sound frequencies and flower essences in the Quantum Alignment System™. These subtle body therapies help hold these vital changes in place!)

When you first start changing your story, you’re vulnerable.

You’ve disrupted your old story. You can’t go back to how things used to be – even though it’s tempting. It’s common to feel, as your new story is gaining strength like you’re sitting in a sort of void or a gap between your old story and your new story.

Emotional Solar Plex in Human Design

Sometimes when you’re in the void, old artifacts from your previous stories pop back up into your reality. That old boyfriend comes back. You get hit with an unexpected bill. You hang out with your old friends and you start to doubt the new direction you’re trying to take with your life. You get frustrated with your partner because you “forget” that you have an Open Emotional Solar Plexus and he is Defined and you’re taking in his energy and feeling like it belongs to you.

It’s easy to make changes to your story, start the inner de-conditioning process, and immediately go out into the world and get re-conditioned again.

It’s ironic that sometimes we’re trying to de-condition in the exact environment that we got conditioned in in the first place. It can feel like a test of sorts. This is the time when a lot of people give up and stop trying to create something different.

Ra Uru Hu, the founder of traditional Human Design, taught that it takes seven years to de-condition. He claimed that all the cells in your body replace themselves after seven years and that, at that time, you are “new”.

Scientifically this isn’t actually true.

Red blood cells have a lifespan of just 70–120 days, while white blood cells live on average more than a year. Skeletal muscle cells last around 15 years. Skin cells live for about two or three weeks. Colon cells die off after about four days. Sperm cells have a life span of only about three days, while some cells never get replaced at all. These include neurons in the cerebral cortex and the cells that make up the lenses in our eyes.

However, there is a certain wisdom in giving yourself the time that it takes to regenerate your personal narrative and to engage in this process with grace and forgiveness – to be gentle and nonjudgmental with yourself.

You aren’t broken, stuck, or blocked.

Some of the narratives you’re living were encoded into your cells before you were even born!

Building resilience and capacity takes time, practice, and repetition. Rest and self-renewal are also essential to integrating a new story about who you truly are.

Knowing how your energy is configured; what you take in and what you give out AND how to sustain it is essential to learning how to be in the world but not get lost in other people’s energy.

The very first step is learning HOW to take back control of the story you tell yourself and the world about who you are and how you are. THIS is the most important part of de-conditioning.

The more you do this, the more you’re able to go out in the world and be purely connected to who you are – the more you’re able to stop reacting to the world.

When you do this and become aware of your Human Design, you call back your power.

You maintain your connection to your creativity. You take back control of how you “be” in the world. You live aligned with your Heart. You become deliberate and intentional and you stop reacting to old patterns and stories.

Here’s to the TRUE story of Who You Really Are!

From my Heart to Yours,


How Can You Call Your Power Back With Human Design?

Why not download your FREE Human Design chart here?

At its core, Human Design is a unique system that offers profound insights into your inner self and how you interact with the world around you. Your Human Design chart is a valuable tool that can help you understand your true nature, discover your strengths and weaknesses, and unlock your full potential.

By downloading and reviewing your unique Human Design Chart you are embarking on a journey of self-discovery that will empower you to make conscious choices in all aspects of your life. Your chart is an Energy Blueprint of your unique energy configuration and contains valuable information about your personality traits, your natural talents, and your life purpose. With this knowledge, you’ll navigate life’s challenges with greater ease and clarity.

Human Design is a deeply empowering system that encourages us to embrace our true selves, rewrite our personal narrative, and live in alignment with our inner wisdom. When we align with our authentic nature, we tap into a wellspring of creativity, joy, and fulfillment that flows effortlessly through us.

There’s More – How To Learn More About Human Design

If you are trying to learn and apply Human Design to your life circumstances, but traditional Human Design rings a little off-key, you don’t quite connect with it, or it feels heavy as you read it. We invite you to explore training options with Quantum Human Design, internationally respected and time-tested training courses.

These courses will empower you to create a life filled with more money, better relationships, health and vitality, a rewarding career, and experience profound personal transformation. 

Explore the life-changing options in our Quantum Human Design School

Curious about the difference between Human Design and Quantum Human Design? Karen Curry Parker explains it in this video:


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